The Truth About Relationships-The Man's Perspective-We've Been Conned!
Im : shivery cold n feverish
Listening to : james blunt-beautiful
relationships are confusing...but before i get into rltnshps id like to know if evrybdy feels the crippling need to be in one...most people say stuff like wow 2 yrs huh? u dont know wt ur missing, all the fish in the sea..n u think hey mebe theyre right but i have ths beautiful thing going on n its so much better coz vre both making like these sacrifices rt...right? i really believ that what makes relationships so special is the sacrifices u make..it shows u care abt the rltnshp..it shows tt ur willing to work hard to make it work..i think in this selfish selfish world, if 2 people cn giv up anythng at all for the pleasure of being wt each other, thats just tearry-beautiful..
that havng been said, i hav to say the only way a person cn really get bk on track in life after a long reltnshp winds down to an end is by thinking abt all the fish uve been hearing abt while u were hitched..u tell urself , hey so this is sad but theres all these great women i havnt even met n its going to b fun just being lone ranger u know...this here, this stage rt here is wt im talking abt...as it turns out the whole fish-in-a-barrel concept is fictitious..simply bcoz unless ur brad pitt therearent tt many fish ..maybe no fish at all..wch is a realization that comes with time,..maybe a week or two of unsuccessful attempts at hooking one...n u ask urself shit did i lose it? i used to b so good at this n now im so used to Her i cnt evn hit on someone anymore..a few more days will tell u ur wrong..tt uve been living in serious misconception..coz the truth is u were nevr very good..as most ppl arent..u just thought u were good coz such is the difficulty of winning the attention and loyalty of a good woman..so once ur ina relatnshp u think wow im good at this, im going to miss this..stop! imagination overboard right there! its an illsuion..n truth is women prefer it this way..most women in reltnshps r glad to let u think ur good at meeting women..as long as ur doubtful u want to find out..but if men live under the impression tt theyre making a sacrifice, that theyre NOT out there bending random women over bathroom stalls rt now bcoz theyve 'chose' to..it reduces chances of infidelity..or attempts at infidelity...numbers show that men who are not sure of themselves r more prone to being unfaithful..that unfaithfulness is really a confidence-building measure..so there u have it..
this is not a bad thing at all..we have our little tricks too..we try as much to monopolize attention through little mind games..tho v get caught almost immediately, men being not as subtle as relationship manouvering requires them to b...but v still try it with relative success...
so wt im trying to get at here is not that women are evil..but that aftr living in this comfort zone of self-esteem for so long, men are hardly ever prepared to face the harsh single world post break-up..all those things ur girlfriend found cute were not rly cute but adjustments..integral to successful relationships and hence not dishonest..but still untrue..wch means tt v step out into the glare of un-available women armed with nothing but wrong notions..on the other hand, men being much less subtle and as a result less manipulative, women are always very aware of themselves..they always know exactly wht theyre capable of n wht theyre not..their feet r planted firmly on the ground n they walk out of breakups free as a bird andready for the next one..i am in no way a misogynist or a critic..im if anything an admirer of this basic survival instinct of the fairer sex..it surprises me that the so called tougher sex lose touch wt reality in the cushiony comfort of a relatnshp..to such an extent that they r lost lil puppy dogs post-break up..hav u seen a recently broken up man? hes a msess-emotionally n physically..coz lets face it..somewhere aftr consummation n before the fifth time our women slip into garbs worn comfortably a good five years ago by our moms..soon v need them as much to hold in bed as to keep the apartmnt clean, tell u wt to wear, dry ur hair..so wen they up n go..ur a wreck..ur a babe in the woods without mom!
now there r a few things i would like to digress to from here...firstly, how do women do it? how do they seperate reality from mubbish(mushy-rubbish)so easily? is it a hormonal thing? secondly, is there something men can do about it? thridly, most importantly, do all men feel the need to be in a relationship the second theyre out of one? is being single really the fun life that its made out to be wen ur not?
now tempting as it is to elaborate, the questions on hand are much too subjective..so im going to stick wt the original theme..wt happens next? after break up i mean...
so first of all u find out that there really r no fish..pretty much evry woman worth her salt is taken, or a scary big guys sister.. secondly u find that u were nevr ever good at chatting up women in the first place..so ur left wt no skills n no opportunity..in the course of wch of course some men luck out n meet equally messed up women n have a fling or two..maybe they evn peter out into somethng more meaningful..but those lucky bastards r not my concern..they dont need help..neither is my concern for the majority population..the ones tt r left wt broken hearts n bruised egos..only god can help them..im talking bat the guys fresh out of rltnshps who hav a fling here, one there..then what? what r they thinking? wt happs to them?
becoz this here, ladies n gentlemne, is the popular man stereotype..belive it or not this is the category most ppl fall under..what r these men thinking?
i for one have found taht the pleasures of being single (if uve been in a relationship)are very minimal, and exagerated as they are..soon im left wanting a familiar pair of arms around my body..i want comfortable silences n age-old arguements..but most of all, most of all, i want the sense of peace..the peace that comes only wt a reltnshp ur sure will last a while..its such a relief..ur body stops being so tense n edgy all the time..u dont havto wear deo afetr evry 2 hrs or worry abt being seen in the same clothes..u cn get a lil drunk n talk silly..u may evn b able to get away wt a burp or a warped sense of time..this then is the high point of a relatnshp..this is in the end wt all men crave..we want peace of mind..aftr all the stuff tt goes on at work and on the cricket field the last thing u want is to worry abt ur love life..ud rather go home to trusty girlfriend whos waiting wt burnt food n a heart full of warmth..
this here is the cycle ..THE cycle..as routine and irksome as anything menstrual..see its not just men that want to be in relationships..women need just as much to be in one..coz it suits them to a T to b sure about wt happens tomo..theyre not creatures of impulse..theyre manipulative and cunning so they like to plan ahead n b sure of themselves..wch is why women need to b in a relationship just as badly as men do..this is also natures way of balancing things out..in theory any man after a long relatnshp, will b such a mess that he will no longer be fit to live in society..if the women dint need relationships either..but they do..so u see..v were just a little misguided..there r plenty of fish in the sea..wt we dint realize is that v r the fish..v hav been the fish since time immemorial..so its ok to b lost n miserable aftr break up..coz its just a matter of time..till a woman catches u hook, line n sinker...all u hav to do is wait..n if something works out on the side in between ..well and good..nobdy cn grudge u a lil cutting loose between relationships..all uve done is do natures bidding..uve simply crossed ur arms across ur chest n waited ..to b fished out of the single-sea..good living for good people!
